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Friday, February 5, 2016

Yes a Sleepover continued but now the right side update with the Crawleys and the "Riot Boys"


...it has been a somewhat relaxing week...I have been stitching our newest sleepover pillow case... between moments of play time with the "riot boys" and watching Downton Abbey ...

...a couple more hours and I will have completed this pretty simple and amazing design...
By the weekend, I will have it washed and pressed and I will have it under my head
while I dream of Downton Abbey...Have you been following this family and their servants
from the 1900's...?





You know the women did a lot of embroidery in those days, I suppose most of theirs were for the hems of nighties...not sure they would have done pillowcases..but they certainly did in
the 50's and 60's...





I thought I would revisit the 1st season of Julian Fellowes evocative, intriguing world of the GREAT Halls of the  Crawleys  to the servants hall of 1912  to 1925... For me I was taken by the fashions, the fact that women and men in those days would be dressed appropriately for every occasion, whether it be breakfast, or a meeting in the library, to a tea with the ladies, to dinner....Everyone wore an attire that was befitting of the occasion.  One could tell your pedigree by what you wore or did not wear.

Even in the 50's and 60's women still wore gloves and hats, men wore suits and ties and we all had our Sunday's best for church and brunch. Gosh things have changed! I remember when we were in Nashville, we went to mass, and most of the church goers were wearing jeans and cowboy boots. I had to chuckle as my Nanny who was always appropriately dressed and made sure I was too, would have turned over in her grave.

I have noted that it is very seldom that I see a woman in a hat or a man in a suit ( unless at a funeral) and even then most  drop in from work or home in casual clothing. And yes economics has a lot to do with it, but regretfully I think most just do not care. I can't even tell you the last time I saw a woman in town here of less than 3.500 with makeup or LIPSTICK. I don't even sit in my home without lipstick but then again I am from an era that women loved to look like ladies. I was raised that way. My Nanny always shared with me " if you want to be treated like a lady you must look like one"...Perhaps old fashion by todays standards, but I rather enjoy the fact that often someone will come up to me to tell me "you look like such a lady"...and I will say" thank you" and smile.

I also noted the distinctive role women had vs men in the early turn of the century, both sexes seemed to know their place in society. Today -we are still not sure even though many of us celebrated some of the following events:

The 19th Amendment to the Constitution, granting women the right to vote

In 1970 Equal Pay Act came into affect ( although still not equal even today) 

 In 1971 Gloria Steinem is launched as an icon of the modern feminist movement.


In 2013 Defense Secretary Leon Panetta announced that the ban on women serving in combat roles would be lifted. In a Jan. 9 letter to Panetta urging the change Joint Chiefs of Staff Chairman Gen. Martin Dempsey said, "The time has come to rescind the direct combat exclusion rule for women and to eliminate all unnecessary gender-based barriers to service." The move reverses the 1994 rule that prohibited women from serving in combat. The change will be gradual; some positions will be available to women immediately but each branch of the military has until 2016 to request exceptions to the new rule.


Many things have changed and I will stand up with any women for equal rights, but I sometimes think we lost something during those times. I was a career woman, loved my position, loved climbing to the glass ceiling, even penetrated it...but I have to say this time of my life, is most treasured....a simple life indeed!

Last night I made some butternut squash soup with tart apples and onions, and the smell that embraced David when he came home was not matched to any take out from the past...I am so contented to stay home and stitch and play with the riot boys. And watch Downton Abbey..  ( I did up a recipe card and pdf with photos for soup if you would like it...just ask)


There is this sense of peace that fills my days that I cannot describe, but I feel it when I watch
these fellows play...and my heart is full....





They still love their tunnel....I think Sumo spends more time in it than Monchat...
but they both  constantly run through it during the day..

While I was getting this post completed....My office is in the basement...
- they kept jumping up and down from my desk to the shelf to the window...
Today, was the first time, they both were up there together....
Sumo, teaching Monchat about how to get up and down ....

Again they are our Riot Boys..


You can see Sumo, lending a paw....
Gosh they are great teachers in the simple things....
They are very HAPPY! -because we ARE!

32 comments:

  1. Ah yes and I miss those days. Even the big cities are dressed so casually these days. Like you, we have loved Downton and am so sorry that it is coming to an end.

    It does look like the boys are keeping you amused and happy.

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    1. good day Mary....we hear it is the good old days....and i believe it... I doubt we will hear that in the future about today....lol thank goodness for wonderful and detailed memories....and yes Downton...gosh I love that show...I have asked for the whole series for Valentines day... and the riot boys...oh yes...xx

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  2. Aww sweetie fur babies
    So cute
    Enjoy your weekend x

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    1. Good day Cucki, ditto my dear.. I am sure it will be wonderful..we will be celebrating the super bowl..

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  3. I have several of my grandmother's embroidered pillow cases, Sometime I feel guilty for using them. But then and again my children are not interested in things like that. They would probably be put in a yard sale. I do try and take care of them though just in case someone wants them. Givee those beautiful boys a hug for me
    Blessings
    Tonia

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    1. Oh Tonia, why feel guilt? She would be thrilled that you sleep on them....there is something about not keeping them for a rainy day.... Ohhh I am sure many would enjoy them ....surely you have fav friends that would treasure them....one of my weaknesses...LINEN lol. and yes gave them a kiss actually..they meowed! lol

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  4. I agree about sometimes feeling like things are missing...or out of place. I don't mind any woman doing what she wants but I resent people trying to make me feel inferior because I am a housewife. It is an insult not only to me but to my husband. He works hard and is proud of the fact that he can provide for his family and I can be home handling the everyday events that occur. I never leave the house without changing my clothes and lipstick! I can't believe how quickly the boys are growing. They are just adorable. I also love the pillow cases. Can't wait to see what all y'all come up with.

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    1. Sweet sweet Mary Ann, I would have loved to stay home and be a housewife when I was younger, but I was widowed and had no choice, I suppose my reward now is I wear my tittle of housewife with pride...I am like you, happy to have a wonderful husband who provides me the luxury to be at home...I really do not think women who work are displeased...I think they are envious to tell you the truth...Happy people do not make others unhappy.......Lipstick a woman's secret and perfect makeup...lol. and the boys, I see things in them everyday....they are so unique x

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  5. Oh I loved Downton Abbey, never missed an episode. There is also a documentary called The manners of Downton Abbey. The historian who advised the makers of DA tells all about the way the aristocracy lived those days.
    I think you'll like it too.
    I am forced to stay at home because of sickness and I see that it gives less stress than the time we both worked fulltime. When my husband comes home dinner is ready and the house is neat and tidy. I am glad to do this for him and he is gratefull that I do it.
    Most married women with children work part time in my country (The Netherlands), the man work 5 days. So there is still an "oldfashioned" balance. Have a nice weekend, Nienke

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    1. Sweet Nienke, I have not seen that special yet, but I will look for it....and yes I would love it...I just ordered some books on Downton Abbey.....and yes there is less stress when the wife is at home...I know my David loves me being at home...I used to travel so much I was home but a few days per month...I am well aware of Europeans life style...it is one we should adapt all over the world....I think we all would be happier with less and more LOVE...

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  6. I love reading your posts and the "Riot Boys"...too sweet. I also enjoy watching Downton Abbey, how times have changed from Season One through this last season. And how times have changed from growing up till now, all the ups and downs. I remember my Grandmothers both wearing hats to church Grandfathers wore suits. Now it's casual wear. I remember my G'ma sewing on her treadle machine, my mother hand quilting and embroidering (and still does).Now, computerized machines. Life seemed simple. Now hustle and bustle. My granddaughters are so full of questions about the past. (They can't imagine living without electricity)and "Granny, why do you have to work"....part of life my dears.....finally, how do I get your soup recipe.....sounds good!

    (libbyblaha@yahoo.com)

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    1. how nice to hear Libby...and yes I too have noted all the changes from season to season and it has been a welcome change too, well except for Violet Crawley, Dowager Countess of Grantham, don't you just love her....she really is my fav along with Cora...I learned on a treadle machine at boarding school...we eventually got electric ones...but I loved the foot motion ....anyway we change and we do what we have to do ....recipe sent.

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  7. Downtown has captured our attention like nothing else. My "born in England" wonderful husband sometimes has to interpret for me, and if all else fails we turn on closed captioning. Love all the characters, but Lady Violet is a riot. Mary and Tom need to hurry up and realize they are truly destined.
    So many twists and turns setting up the finale. Boo hoo!!!

    All is well with me and physical therapy is helping towards my independence. Sounds like your kitties are keeping you amused and totally loved. Hugs from Judy C

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    1. HI sweet Judy....it has been a lovely trip, it is a series I shall never tire of...glad you have your sweet man to watch it with...my David loves it too...I thought so too about Mary and Tom....mmmmmm glad to hear you are doing well and mending...xx

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  8. I don't mind casual dress for day to day errands and such but so many of us "Americans" actually dress like slobs and it is very sad indeed. I disdain how people travel and wear less than nice clothing every place they go. I loved wearing hats and gloves and nice clothes. Your soup sounds delicious. Sweet Riot Boys...

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    1. HI Sherry, I don't mind either, but has become more the norm to do it every day no matter the occasion, and that is all I see in our small town...so it is possibly not happening every where else.. but when someone is dressed up it certainly stands out...in a nice way...
      I still wear gloves and hats x

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  9. I do so miss the days of dressing for the occasion and being put together before leaving the house. I think it harks back to my mother and seeing her transform from a working woman in the required pants into a beautiful woman dressing to the nines to go out for the evening with my father. They were such a striking couple. He was tall and handsome in a Clark Gable kind of way and she was as beautiful as any movie star. Tall, naturally blonde with hair that fell to the middle of her back. Head turners for sure.

    It almost pains me to see the way people today think wearing sweats and no makeup is perfectly fine to go out in public. I feel sad for the state of today's so called fashion.

    Love reading about the Riot Boys and their antics. It's amazing how much laughter a kitten can bring to the home. My Skylar is just turning 5 months old so I know how you feel about your two boys. Riley, my 1 year old cat, is now constantly being reminded of how much fun it is to just play for the sake of play.

    Have a wonderful, laughter filled weekend.
    Rina

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    1. HI Rina..your parents sounded glamorous..that is what we lack today...the glamour has been replaced with grunge and black and too much casual...I noted it when I left nursing, we always wore white and caps, then it went to coloured scrubs and running shoes, no caps, everyone looks like they are the cleaning staff instead of nurses....I miss those days too..I have mistaken more staff for just shoppers because they looked like they grabbed whatever was on the floor that day lol. makes me laugh most days and I think in my head bubble " what were they thinking" lol and yes riot boys are filling our lives with happiness and awe moment, they are such a delight...enjoy your weekend too..we will be...super bowl...lol

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  10. What a beautiful day today is. You always have a wonderful way of approaching a subject.I agree with you about how times have changed. It is a shame to see women in general dressing way to casual. I cringe when I see you girls wearing what are really flannel pajama bottoms in public. I tend to wear my some of my clothes a little big. but still stylish. It is a nice feeling to be dressed up. Our way of like seems to have gotten too casual. Compliments are nice. Women should be proud of how far they have come and what they have accomplished. Who knows, we may have a woman president soon. So love to see the pictures of the Riot Boys. What a wonderful way to spend you day. You are such a loving giving person. Enjoy your weekend. Superbowl and all!!

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    1. I dare mirror that Mary...it is beautiful here too..the sun is shining and I swear I hear tulips moving through the soil....OMG pj bottoms, I see them all the time....it used to be you would not even sit on your front porch in jammies...Now I am know to sit in my housecoats outside but only in the backyard where nobody can see us... Casual now is every day, even my hubby's office are casual everyday unless they have a big meeting and then all the guys are wearing is a shirt and tie..I miss seeing my man dress in suits to go to work....I was still in the time whereby in Pharma, everyone was always dressed up...we would never think of wearing jeans even on fridays.......and yes women have come a long way....but only in the western world...sadly many women in our world still do not have a voice...welll at least like here where we are not afraid to speak up and out....lol.
      and our Riot boys touch my heart every single day..xx Superbowl...I just did up a post...wink

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  11. Hello Samm. This post sure gets people talking! I agree with you whole heartedly. The question for me is not whether or not a woman COULD do this or that....rather if you SHOULD do it. I think men and women are both different, not only physically, but also mentally. Things like homemaking and child rearing can be done by either, however, much more joy and satisfaction are felt by women in those roles than men... and that goes for providing for the family financially as well. Women have the capability of doing this with great success, however, the benefit emotionally from that work is felt more rewarding from a male perspective I believe. The formality and morality of those times have seemed to take a back seat as the superficial challenge of feminism has decayed our naturally happy roles as women and men. People have bought into the idea that either sex is the same...and that "stuff" is worth what you sacrifice to take on roles that are not necessary. Taking pride in your femininity by showing outwardly with dress and makeup your girly side makes you really stick out in today's world. I do believe that it is on the come back as more and more women want to get back to the good ol days. Those women seemed much more happy and fulfilled because I believe they were. Women will eventually figure it out that as they search for happiness. That is my hope. BUT for now.... those of us who know sure live happy lives of bliss and contentment. Cheers to you for being one of those women. You are one of the most magical, smart, and incredible women on the planet! You are an example to all as you embrace your femininity and then turn around and share your ideas with us. What a blessing it is to visit with you each and every day. xxx

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    1. Ohh Cori, you are so smart, your voice can heard between the lines...we would be great debaters.......and yes as much as the role of women has changed, I don't think it has been for the better for family or economics. Easy for me to say now, as I had a lucrative career, but most of those years, I was a single Mumm, so I had to work...but even when I remarried, I felt I needed all those "things" rubbish....I love having LESS, I love being HOME, I love cooking supper and getting lunches ready for my man....and I am happier than I have ever been in my life.....If for a second women could give up their jobs and be in a partnership with their hubbies ( because there would be more jobs and men would get paid more) I doubt very much women would miss the working outside of the home...Because there is enough inside the home to keep them busy......Now I could be wrong...but we don't need more, we need less...people are much happier with less..I am one of those women....lol
      thank you for your sweet note...it touches my heart...I am just ME!

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  12. Great stuff! Those boys are too cute together!

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    1. ahhhh Karen....always nice to see you and your note

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  13. Oh ... great idea! .. Embroidery is delicious!
    I'm also a fan of Downton Abbey, the other week I watched all the episodes of the sixth season, one after another!
    Huga
    Loredana

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    1. Hello Loredana....ohhh love Downton Abbey, watching it from 1st season all over again... we still have 3 episodes from the 6th season..so we have not seen it yet....oh my ...what a series....x

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  14. Samm,

    I was wondering if this pattern will be for sale? I have a good friend moving away and I would like to make this for a gift.

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    1. HI Mary are you talking sleepover..it is available now...side by side...write me
      and I will send the pattern....it is 15.00... has all the pillow details too.

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    2. Your friend would cherish this....it is a perfect gift for friends ...who talk wink
      write me here, madamesamm@me.com

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  15. Hi Samm, Oh how I love your posts! Always plenty to ponder. Just the other day my sister and I were reminiscing about the days when you could only wear white after Memorial Day until Labor Day. Do you remember that? I also love how women use to be more feminine, me included. I loved all the fashions on Mad Men- ohhh I loved that show! It reminded me of all the couples I babysat for. Of course, we all got dressed up for Mass. I have photos of my dad from the 70's where he has his suit on for dinner, always. He was such a gentleman, and a gentle man :) My Mom is still a lady indeed. I have to confess to being seen on occasion in my NY Yankees tee shirts- for shame!! :)
    But I always have my lipstick on :)

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    1. ahhh I so remember....I am certainly a product of that era...I am always dressed up, still feel much like a lady...Mad Men was a fav here too....anything that portrays that era is certainly worth tuning in for ...

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    2. There is something about Don Draper- ohhhhhhh!!!!!!!! :)

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