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Friday, July 24, 2015

Blog HOPS the overwhelming cost in $, in time and in SANITY..

Good Day and it is--- really it is

....I still get many emails.........many many many...

"When is the next blog HOP?"
"Will you still be organizing them?"

And there is no simple way to explain my decision to put this behind me....So perhaps you might understand the cost of it all...And yes if any of you think this is something you would like to do,
here is a detailed cost to me ...

I poured you a cup... it may be a bit much to swallow lol..




4.5 years of managing giveaways and blog hops cost to me  overall. 
$51, 345. 07
yep, that is what this lady took from her pocket to manage blog hop for 4.5 years
( with no financial assistance from any companies) 



And that is not even taking into account the hours per week I spent
managing the themes, the designs, working with many many manufacturers
of fabric, ( they were not always the easiest to manage) constant reminders,
weekly emails, sometimes daily requests...

I spent many hours negotiating on YOUR behalf for giveaways
and bundles for YOU to work with....Many received many many hundreds
of dollars of notions, fabrics and patterns every MONTH! 

Working with the cheerleaders ( who were pretty awesome)
Making gifts for every one of them.....

Packaging thousands of giveaways,
Cost of shipping , transaction fees. 

Hiring 3 part time staff ( did not add that to the cost of managing the BLOG HOPS)
The time spent away from my family, 45-69 hours PER WEEK! 

feels good to let it all out...wink....my hankies I put out this morning, just in case the post is a wash for you.

I saw the GOOD , the BAD and the darn right UGLY
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The GOODNESS in the very few who would write a note thanking me for 
their giveaway ( which was made possible by many great companies by the way)
There are a few very special companies that I loved working with, they know
who they are...They will always have a special place in my heart!
I am sure I brought many $$$$ to them through the years!


I can count on one hand how many ever thanked me for anything for that matter...
 We gave away 6,438 giveaways! 
I  have 8 written cards of thanks! ( 2 from the same person) 


The Bad was the constant complaints that filled my inbox on a weekly basis.
Did not like the top 2, did not like the theme, did not like--- well a lot of things...
I was threatened, harassed, verbally abused, brought to tears so many times..
I was hacked, my blog was purchased outright, porno was put up
once, oh there was so much BAD.....
 but I did not quit, because I just did not want BADNESS to win!


The UGLY , well that surprised me the MOST, I still for the life of me
 cant believe this ever happened....

WE had 23 PEOPLE who came under numerous names, same ISP
to win giveaways, these were PRO's in every way..
I used to put links on all of my photos to see where they would end up..
97% of the time, I would see a giveaway being SOLD on EBAY and ETSY.
Yep the giveaways that were supposed to be for YOU
the sewer, the quilter, the WANTOBE...
were cashed in! They were not even sewers, quilters.....

Sadly that is what took a toll on me, my goal
was really to try to inspire many to sew, quilt, stitch....
I did not want to see the BAD and the UGLY! 

And I think I did that ( inspire some of you) , but the cost to me personally
was far beyond any dollars that it took me to keep that all going...

So my decision to stop all BLOG HOPS was not an easy one,
it took me almost a week to total all the costs and I am sure I forgot 
many other expenses....

These past couple months have been PURE JOY for me again.
I am loving sewing and stitching again, I even have time
to learn a new skill, CROCHET.


I wanted to get people healthier, slimmer, happier..
so they would have time to sew, stitch and CROCHET...

If you really want something GOOD for you, 
you want the energy and the feeling of FULLNESS...
well look into it....This has been my secret for years..
it has been a muffin that kept me going....wink...
I am Registered Nutritionist who wanted to do something that would
make a big difference in LIVES.


I have no regrets really, but knowing what I know now...
I would NEVER EVER take on this enormous burden...

There was an enormous cost to me....
and I don't mean financial!

But that is behind me now, I always have said
" I am here till I am not"

Sadly sometimes, many never appreciate the GOODNESS
that is right in front of them till it is GONE!

Today, I have set NEW GOALS, I am going to work
with those who bring out the best in ME, those who make
me feel worthwhile, those who do appreciate what I try to do
each day....

They make me laugh and smile again,
They make me feel there is HOPE
They instil in me there is  still GOODNESS and not 
all people are  TAKERS.


TAKE NOTE OF WHAT IS TRULY IMPORTANT.
Make new goals, learn new things, just be HAPPY!

I am NOW! 

Love what you do, the rest will fall into place...

YOU do Matter! 












180 comments:

  1. The important thing is that you have found a new path that brings you joy. Sending you hugs with much Aloha!

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    1. ahhh that is nice....a note with hugs wink.

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  2. I'm sorry for all the problems and costs you encountered with the blog hops, but I am so thankful to you for all the things I learned from them. I will be forever grateful for you and all the others who inspired me to be a better quilter and to try new techniques. Thank you for all the gentle pushes you gave me! It is so nice that you've found a new path to something that once again makes you happy. xo

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    1. well that is nice to see....as you know more than anyone else.....glad you learned something. that makes me very happy!

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  3. Oh Madam Sam! I'm am so sorry to hear that you won't be doing blog hops - you were my favorite hostess! I understand why and it hurts to think people would do things like that. Thank you for the hard work you do and for giving alot of us the confidence to try something new and make new friends along the way. I have grown as a crafter and blogger because of you. I also get more done in 23 minutes! Thank you!

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    1. me too Bobbie...every ONE can be replaced....someone will take over being a hostess as you put it lol. and good about the 23 min...I still work on that principle daily..

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  4. Wow, this has been quite the eye opener. I have followed your blog hops, visited quite a few of the other blogs, seen so many talented people through you. Thank you so much! I never tried for any of the giveaways as I am not that lucky at all but the chance to see how others have devised new ways of doing blocks and patterns has been priceless. Thanks for all your time, money and effort to help educate us newbies!

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    1. So appreciate your sweet note...thank you !

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  5. Congratulations! It's good to feel free isn't it?

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    1. FREE....mmmmm nothing ever comes for FREE....lol but I knew what you meant...wink.

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  6. Life is too short to be filled with unnecessary stress and burdens. I appreciate all you have done for us out here in blog land and what you continue to do. If Mamma isn't happy, then no one is happy. Enjoy your life and time.

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    1. And I do Jacqueline..do enjoy life more these days, sometimes we have to have a little fear to put things in perspective...I welcome the darkness, as there is always light beyond ....wink.x

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  7. You have to do what is right for you. I have never done a blog hop but I do know how cruel people can be - they think that they are invisible behind a screen without thought of the harm they put on the person. Keep on stitching and doing what makes you happy!

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    1. will do , thank you for your note...I applaud your comment.

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  8. I can't imagine that anyone asked you to put out your own money for blog hops themselves or even offer giveaways. Time is the one thing you have to offer that was your own time to volunteer putting into it to have the enjoyment by others. I do get that some organization is involved, I'm currently about to host a QAL on my own blog and I do understand the time that is involved with it. It's been so worth it tho, I've come to know 20 wonderful quilters thru the process and I'm enjoying the camaraderie that comes from it.

    I'm happy to see you've finally spoke up about it, I thank you for that. Many of us enjoyed just participating in your blog hops, it got us sewing, getting our creative juices flowing, using up some of that valuable fabric stash, even or enlightening us to new lines that were out and about. I never said it, but thank you for giving me the chance to participate in 17 bloghops. I enjoyed every single one of them. I loved visiting the other bloggers and I enjoyed seeing the picks of the day, even tho I may not have always agreed, but I never would write and complain about that. They were obviously your picks. I was honored to be your choice on one of them with my Sunbonnet Door Stop.

    I for one truly enjoyed the blog hops, they opened me up to many creative possibilities with quilting. I was introduced to many new bloggers who are also doing amazing things with their quilting.

    Sadly, their is always bad with the good, no way around it, and I'm truly sorry that you saw some bad along with the good. We can't control what people do with the giveaways, but we can be thankful that perhaps a few won some nice things.

    I wish you well and hope your new venture brings you much success.

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    1. that is wonderful to hear, all the best in your goals...and thank you

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  9. WOW! This was truly an eye opener for me. I didn't realize so much went into a Blog Hop. I really appreciate ALL that you did Madame Samm. I enjoyed the hops so much and found so many new ideas. I met a lot of new people.But what you were going through, I had no idea. I am so very happy you have found what makes you happy and can go through each day with a smile on your face. All of us should do what makes us happy. Sending you a big hug as well.

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    1. WElllllllllll, I did have my moments, I just never aired out my laundry per say....but really no one can keep taking the $#*T without it causing some harm....for me it was an overwhelming disappointment in PEOPLE, I guess I kept thinking there is a lot of GOODNESS out there...and there was , but the UGLY just kept getting uglier....and there was no sense of appreciation...A big reason why people leave companies, or quit altogether..when the appreciation is gone so are the people...There are so many talented people under rocks today...now I understand why...sad isn't it...But I am not closing my blog, I am happier with the decision and I feel those who to appreciate what is being shared here, will come by from time to time and visit...so thank you sweet lady...x

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  10. I'm not sure if you actually told us outright that you would not be organizing more hops or if I just received the info via osmosis (lol), but it was nice to get 'just the facts, mamm'. The hops were such fun but I can understand the time commitment you (& the organizing cheerleaders) extended though I had no idea of the monetary cost. I love reading about all that you create - thank you for sharing with me/us. I am always amazed at all the new ideas you conceive and then create. Enjoyment is the main concern when it comes to our craft(s); I'm glad that is your priority, too. Thanks, again for sharing. Just me, always an avid follower and reader.

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    1. No I never did actually....i was pondering, but when the emails from some kept escalating and got ugly....I thought it was time to air it out...I felt like I was an employee to those few who felt I OWED them something....anyway, again, behind me, I have far too much in me now, to stop blogging...so that I will continue..so glad to see you will be still an avid friend...x

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  11. Dearest Madame ... I will forever be grateful for the time, effort, kindness, and inspiration you have given not only me, but everyone who cared to see you and your blog posts for what they truly are ... pieces of you generously shared. While I can admit to wishing to return to the world that was when you first began Stash Manicure for OH so many reasons, I know that is just wishful thinking. You have inspired me in so many areas of my life, and I am grateful to you. Thank you for sharing yourself .... you are and will always remain MaDear to me. You is Kind, You is Smart, You is Important .... thank you. Hugs to you

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    1. thank you, this is nice to see, and yes how i wish we could start over but it would not be me leading sadly....I don't think I could handle the burden again lol....I like being lighter these days, with such great plans on creating more on my schedule.....that is what truly matters..the small things, because by golly they add up... and xo

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    2. To play off of Wendy's remark: You is Kind, You is Important, You is Smart, and You is Special. So KISS, KISS, KISS.

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  12. Samm.... there are so many expressions of loss here....but I do not feel the same way. I am so excited for you! Freeing up your time to pursue your own interests is exactly what you should be doing. People have no idea what kind of absolute joy there is to be found in what you do yet...because they are too busy grieving for the loss of all of your hard work they benefited from. You are the most creative person I know. I love your determination, and your out of the box approach to everything you do. Your sense of individuality coupled with your self motivated problem solving is such a joy to watch become artwork. Without the continuous hours spent behind the scenes negotiating and organizing blog hops, you can now spend that time creating and giving back in a different way. I for one am thrilled watching you bloom as you do what makes YOU happy! Happiness is felt in all you do these days, at least I see it. Now that is something to be excited about! I find so much inspiration here...and that is not going to stop. YOU inspire. Everyday! The spotlight is right on you these days....which is why people come here in the first place...YOU!!!

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    1. I took a bit of a break today, spent some time with my beloved...thought I would check in...and what did I see...well a sweet note from the one person who has allowed me to still create and be challenged so I can do what I am doing now..That is what I am truly grateful for...someone who enjoys the special moments, the special projects and we still get to share with others who may be inspired too. It is funny, how once to you get away from the rat race, your heart slows down and you wonder why you were running so fast..........I get to enjoy my days again...and perhaps a bit of selfishness too....I want to spend the rest of my days LOVING every moment...so thank you for pulling me out of the race....

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  13. I am so sad to hear about your bad and ugly experiences! You have never brought me anything but pure joy, laughs and a great sense of community. I understand completely that you do not want to do that anymore. I enjoyed every moment of reading (my way of participating) and commenting everywhere. So a big huge thank you for that. I will continue to follow all your adventures in your new and improved life, since that is what I am here for! Thank you for sharing that with all of us. Sending you lots of love and a big hug.

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    1. Ahhh sweet Heleen, I always love hearing from you...I always leave with smile after hearing from you...and thank you I feel the love and hug back to you too...

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  14. Lovely Samm, I became so sad to read about the burden that the bloghops have cost you. I mean in §§ and mentally. I must say that it is because of you that I have tried several new methods in quilting, that I don´t think I should make if it has not been for your blog hops. But I will ensure you that you will hear from me again if you would get some mails from Sweden now and then.
    I wish you good luck in your crocheting, which I learned when I was ten from my grandmother.
    Several warm hugs from me in Malmö

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    1. Always always I enjoy YOU...Ms Britt-Inger...you so inspired me too...now I will have some time to visit you and many others..there were so few moments left for me to enjoy as I spent so much time behind the scenes with details...details that nobody really cared to know about, details that kept me up at night...so now I get to sleep lol. keep writing I will be here....x

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  15. Samm, this literally hurts my heart to read that ANYONE could say or do anything bad to you concerning the blog hops. As I told you the other day, you have inspired and encouraged literally THOUSANDS of people over the last years. Who can say that? I mean, really. You have taught me to think outside of the box, feel good about myself, and encouraged me to keep trying. I will be forever grateful for that and feel blessed that our paths crossed so many years ago. Thank you for all that you have done and still do, always asking for nothing in return. I'm so happy to see that you are finally taking some time to do what YOU enjoy. Love you, sweet friend. xoxo

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    1. What lovely meaning behind your words..along the way I have met some amazing ladies, you are in that mix for sure...Glad to see you share more of YOU, you have amazing talent for stitching...now I will have more time to enjoy the view too....

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  16. So sorry to hear about the expense and unpleasant experiences you encounter with the blog hops. I always enjoyed them but wonder how you managed to put so many together. That said I'm enjoying your new path just as much. Your posts seem much more relaxed and close to your heart. Good for you!

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    1. WElll to be perfectly honest, I got very little sleep...I always felt worn out....but you get use to the pace of the race until you trip and fall and realize there are no big rewards ahead..they were part of the journey, a journey whereby I was missing everything........I am now seeing and realizing what I lost.... and that is my REWARD for the rest of my life... I get to enjoy each moment now...and the view is beautiful....

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  17. My dear Mdm Samm just read your post. What can I say?: Thank you so much for investing your heart (and time, money...) for us. It was very precious to me personally and I still love to follow your blog and see and read what you are up to. Still so much things to inspire me and I am happy, that you keep on doing what is on your heart. So sorry for all the bad and I wish all the good for you.
    Sounds so wonderful with these muffins,wow. And I just adore all those hankies turned into something sweet. I look forward to see more of you.
    Hugs Martina

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    1. Hello sweet Martina....a friend from a far but a friend in my heart....I will still be around now doing what I love to do...so I guess you will still have someone to visit now and then....that is what I am going to love....

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  18. Samm when something begins to compromise our health, physical - mental - emotional - spiritual - then it's time to move away from it. Not just move away but run the opposite direction! I am so glad to have been a part of the blog hops but I'm just as glad to see your cross stitch or crochet or baking - all of these are part of you and you have a rather unique gift of enthusiasm that makes everything you do just plain fun. The best part of this computer world is that when ugly things come our way we can hit delete! I am so blessed that blogging brought me friendship with you - a world away from where I live I have a dear friend whose heart has touched my heart. And that has taught me that all around the world we are all the same - women struggling with everyday issues and trying to make our little corner of the world more beautiful. I applaud you for all that you have contributed to that. blessings, marlene

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    1. Marlene, you have certainly been on the other end of my tears....far too many, but you know that chapter is over....I am still not sure what I got out of the journey but I know what I have yet to experience....some ME time for the first time actually in my whole life.... I think its time for me to know me now....to explore all the creativity that has been trapped for awhile....and me too ....you know...feel the same xx

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  19. It is sad when people abuse something or someone. I've declined prizes (not from you) that weren't my style/color, so that someone else could get and use them. There is no way to make everyone happy. It was fun to see what others created, even though I only participated in one hop. I only blog when I have something to show. I just don't have the time for all the blogging. I'd rather be sewing. It does take lots of time, just to write one blog post, much less one every day for a blog hop.

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    1. I will ditto that sentiment...I want to be sewing...but I will try to do a bit of both ....for me now...it will be a venue to keep my focused....so thank you for your note

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  20. The ole saying...One bad apple... yep just a few can spoil the bunch for so many. The costs you incurred are staggering. I don't think any of us new that. Lesson for all those sitting on a keyboard ranting away. Your actions matter,...you can ruin things for so many! Bless you for all you have done, and continue to do for us all!

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    1. You know Joan, I think this is the very first note you have ever left me that was not filled with humour....sadness actually, there were far too many spoilers per say....I could write volumes on that theme....but again...behind us it will be and I will take only the JOY like you have given me
      and so many others and leave the bad apples sitting there to rot....WHEW that was bad...wasn't it....? but it felt good to say it lol......

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  21. Samm
    I can fully understand your decision, and for me, it was a great, creative time, but also quite stressfull :-)
    Since our flood, I "cooled" down as well and I am really enjoying sewing now without Deadlines, even if sometimes they were pushing, LOL
    You are THE organizer and I hope your Muffin Business is going well.... by the way did you get the Quotation abouth delivery fees to la Suisse?
    Huge hugs

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    1. Ohhhh my sweet Judy....funny how a "flood" can do that...make you think of what is important....and deadlines...there is a reason it is called that...It kills something in you lol....
      but good for us, that we got that memo right> lol...ohhhh and I sent you a quote..found a way.....wink..

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  22. Many people do not look beyond themselves, sad but true. I have been myself disappointed by recipients never sending me a thank you or acknowledging on their blog the items I sent. A few swaps resulted in my receiving (or not) something bought or barely made. I understand your position. Sorry that you haave not been appreciated all the times... I love your blog, love your ideas. When it is no longer enjoyable to do, then it should stop. Good for you having come to the right decision. "See" you soon.

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    1. Yep yep yep Gracie...I know that disappointment....I cannot even tell you how many times I sent stuff and got well RUBBISH back...I don't do that anymore ....I love working with those who play well with others...and psstt there are many still out there.......see you soon .oh yes...x

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  23. For those of us who participated/followed your wonderful blog hops,we thank you for expanding our view of quilting and introducing us to so many new friends near and far. I for one have learned so much through our association.
    Mental abuse is tough at any level, but you have apparently put yourself out there for us many times. Thank you. I am so happy that you have moved through the issues and have come out the other side still a sharing and giving individual.
    I will continue to follow you on your adventures. Enjoy each and every one of your tomorrows.

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    1. Ahhh sweet Selina.....there have been some sweet moments...I remember the day I called you to say you won that HUGE ironing board....I remember how excited you were....those are the moments that have brought me some joy... I have a few more tomorrows...so with that thought, I will say to you..thank you from my heart...

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  24. Hugs, Enjoy your life. Crochet is fun, so many different stitches to learn.

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    1. yes I so agree...I am really enjoying CROCHET...a new passion for me, that now I get to do..

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  25. I am so grateful to you for your leadership and all I learned through the hops. New paths are what makes us grow. Time is precious and it's good to have more of it to apply to family and new creative expressions. Bravo!!

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    1. Hello stranger...have seen you in months....hope this finds you well and very happy...
      you were always a beacon of inspiration........glad you got to be part of it ..

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  26. We certainly didn't let you know enough how much we appreciated all your hard work! Thank you, thank you, thank you! You are loved and appreciated and most of us understand completely your decision to make your life your own again! Life is too short as it is. We have learned so much from you and as a result of your efforts.

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    1. well what is that saying..it is never too late....unless of course if I had DIED and did not know that...now that would be just awful...lol. no seriously...there were many of you whom I knew appreciated the journey...and I so appreciated your gifts of your shares....trust me I still keep thinking of that flower QUILT.....XX

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  27. Cori said it best, You are one creative, caring, lovely lady. You and Cori have come up with some of the most fun and wonderful things. You help to look at things differently and creatively. You inspire in so many ways. Life is grand and there are adventure abound. Be yourself. You are amazing. You matter to me a lot.

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    1. ahhh Mary...and you know the feeling is mutual...I feel very lucky in many ways that I gathered some pretty flowers to put in my bouquet.......

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  28. Madame Samm, thank you for all you did for us through these blog hops. I know they pushed me to work better and harder. I imagine it is hard to deal with complaints and ugly people. it's great that you said "NO". Enjoy your new life and business and be with persons who appreciate you.

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    1. and my sweetest GETA...we came on board around the same time...I so remember thinking, this lady is going places....YOU Have so much talent, so much grace and you are one of those ladies I could never ever forget...for some many blessed reasons....xxx

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  29. Oh, Madame Samm, I am so sorry to hear about of all the difficulties you endured while hostessing your blog hops. I always enjoyed them, and am so grateful to all of your co hostesses for their hard work as well. Best wishes, and I am happy that you have found your creative soul again.

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    1. It is not like I did not know how difficult it was....it was harder than anything I had ever done, as I was not even a quilter when I started all this...so now I can do other things I don't know how to do...like crochet lol...i think I may have found something I am not GOOD AT...yet lol

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  30. Your hops were amazing. They made me try new things and work to complete projects. They helped me stretch and grow. Thank you. But I can so appreciate the toll that it took to create and manage them and deal with people. I'm glad you've found a happier space to create and share what you enjoy and what brings joy and inspiration to others.

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    1. WEll if anyone knows the struggles I have been through..you knew me from from the very beginning...how many times I said "this is it."....and still I kept up the pace... and it really almost killed my spirit...until wellllllll, LOVE woke me up....and now I am in a happier place...and I think ME is better....so thanks for always being my cheerleader...x

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  31. So.
    WHEN IS THE NEXT BLOG HOP?
    haha just kidding.
    I remember the days with great fondness. I am happy for you. We get one life.
    You have to do what you want.
    Anyway, my only regret is that I had to leave early and care for my parents.
    It was a lot of fun.

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    1. I can count on you to bring some light to the conversation....well you got it sweet Rosemary B here.... you stopped the train and got off...I should of gotten off with you...wink. xx

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  32. Madam Samm, I have missed our hops so much, however I certainly would never have wished such stress on anyone and especially not you! You definitely inspired me to accomplish more with my quilting, the blog hops really helped keep me more organized with my time, and I will try to carry that bit of organization on. I appreciate everything I learned from participating, and very much appreciate everything you put into these events for us. I am happy you're happy now, and look forward to seeing what you create next!
    ~Brandy

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    1. sorry to hear you have missed the hops...but hopefully Brandy, you have enough to continue to inspire others now...well pop in at times....I promise to create....you can bet on that one..

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  33. Oh, Samm, I honestly don't know how you did it all! And at such a personal expense. It makes me sad to think of anyone complaining or saying hurtful things. You are a marvel - your passion and creativity is and has been such a beacon for so many - and especially for me. I've learned so much from you, gained a network of dear friends from around the world, and have been the beneficiary of your generousity and goodness many times over. You've pushed us to excel - to try new things, to challenge ourselves, then worked so hard behind the scenes to provide the format for us to share what we learned, and learn from each other. I consider the past four years to have been an amazing education! It has been so fun to watch the blog evolve, and now to come back to you sharing those things that are important to you and spark joy in your life; I'm continually inspired by not only your beautiful creations (& great photos!!), but by your positive encouragement and sense of humor (case in point: "airing out some laundry"...Ü) Bless your heart, Samm, you're a gem!

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    1. Listen I read this twice..it is like I was writing it to YOU....you are one of the ladies who inspired me, helped me to better, taught me so much...I was the one who received so much goodness from you...it was I many times who felt truly blessed for our friendship... so to see your words to me..well they fill me with emotion..thank you...YOU wonder at times through the years..." does anyone really care" ....xx oh and I think I aired a lot more than laundry lol

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    2. Listen I read this twice..it is like I was writing it to YOU....you are one of the ladies who inspired me, helped me to better, taught me so much...I was the one who received so much goodness from you...it was I many times who felt truly blessed for our friendship... so to see your words to me..well they fill me with emotion..thank you...YOU wonder at times through the years..." does anyone really care" ....xx oh and I think I aired a lot more than laundry lol

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  34. Samm thank you for the time and patience you have given me over the years. Thank you for inspiring me to keep going even when I just threw my hands up and said no more. Yet I am back at it again because of you. I am not going to make this long I just want let you know I appreciate you and all you do. (((Hugs))) Cheryl

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  35. Ahhh my MAMMY creator...someone who actually knew me way before I started this blog...gosh we have seen lots haven't we? YOU have always inspired me Cheryl in so many ways..I will continue to be your cheerleader now and thereafter xxx

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  36. Oh Samm, I felt different range of emotion while reading this post! Surpise, joy, sorrow, indignation... But I think you made right decision, anyway - all good things come to an end sooner or later and now you opened the door to the brand new YOU :) And I want to make you sure that we all love you not for the giveaways and blog hops you made, but for the brilliant ideas, much inspiration and your sincere belief in us - cross stitchers, quilters and needlewomen in general! ^_^

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    1. Ahhh my sweet friend Maria....well it has been a day for me of mixed emotions...and yes from a wise one...all good things must end...and then you DIE...( laughing here, because I am very much alive....I was actually quite DEAD these past few years, I was dying every day and I was a shell of a person) Now I have life in my step, the JOY has certainly returned and I am a BRAND new ME...one who is so interested in the challenges before me and the time now to enjoy the view with YOU ....love and kisses to you xx

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  37. Samm, I knew it had to be hard. But I had no idea how hard it was for you, let alone the financing. You have done the same for me that you did for everyone else and again I thank you. I'm smiling while writing this because of knowing how much better off you are now. I made three good friends
    with you before I stopped hopping with the Ghastlies Hop, make that four Marlene, Joan ,Amy and you. That is my favorite part.
    I still look in on what your are stitching because it is always so cute or pretty. But I only embroidery a little on the houses or dolls. But I do crochet some so I'm looking forward to see how well and what
    you do with that.. Still praying for you and yours. And give that bossy cat a hug for me.

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    1. WElllllllll Tonia.. HARD, I can think of many other words to describe it......( none of them publishable) lol it is funny how we do things in our lives, have lots of children, take on crazy demanding jobs, do the IMPOSSIBLE at times...and we wonder how we got through it....Now that THAT part of my life is over, I realize how much I have LOST.... I can never get those days, weeks, months and years back... of all the things I have taken on, Managing BLOG HOPS is the ONE thing I WOULD NEVER EVER DO AGAIN....

      The good news is that some did get something out of it...made friends, learned a few tricks, even won some prizes, got accolades, companies made lots of money, many grew their blogs...even some became designers...actually quite a few....so for many I suppose the experience of it all was worth it for YOU ladies... that does bring me some comfort...

      So I guess now it's my turn to learn something...like CROCHET< maybe I will be needing your help...wink.... my Bossy cat ...did you mean Sumatra? is she bossy? lol

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  38. Good for you! I am doing the same...giving up a very demanding and expensive volunteer position. Have 4 "new" vintage Singers, a river cruise planned, ailing family members to help...time for family, friends and fun. Life is too short.

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    1. ahh why is it we have to mature to understand the greatest lessons...JUST BE HAPPY.... and glad we both realized that before we ..well you know ....Have a delightful river cruise....keep your mouth shut...lol well you will figure that one out soon enough wink...x

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  39. From Joanne....

    First and foremost, thank you for all you have done for so many of us over the years. I have been the recipient of a few prizes over that time and I apologize if I did not thank you properly. I sure hope I did and am embarrassed if I did not. I do remember that I sent you a few gifts - umbrellas frame, etc., so I'm guessing that my mom is not rolling over in her grave at any unacceptable behavior on my part. *:) happy

    I would like to share just a few things that you have done for me while I was a participant in various blog hops.

    1) You pushed me to experiment and try new things. There were hops in which I participated that I wasn't sure I'd like, but I took your cue and challenged myself to try new things. (Because of you, I have made MANY coin purses and have loved sharing them with many, many people.) I am honored to have been chosen for the "Pick of the Day" a few times; and I'm not sure you will ever know how good that made me feel, especially when my creation was not exactly easy for me. I remember the hundreds of e-mails (in addition to the comments on my blog) I got after the "See You in September" blog hop in which I used orange Riley Blake fabric to make my umbrella. I was overwhelmed with excitement and remember thinking about how many e-mails you must get every day. I'm not sure I could have done what you did for so long. THANK YOU!

    2) You have shared your wealth of knowledge about photography and although I have a lot more to learn, I am not so fearful about it. Every time I go out to take pictures in the morning, I think of you and how right you were about those being the best pictures. Thank you! Of course, when I post pictures that are not exactly the best or even good quality, I picture you cringing and feeling the need for another cup of coffee to settle yourself. :-)

    3) You showed me how important it is to take the time to make comments on blogs, if for no other reason than to thank the person for sharing their creations and talents with us. I love reading comments on my blog (most of them) and know that I want to give others that same feeling. You ALWAYS commented on EVERY post and did it with grace. THANK YOU!

    4) Because of you and your cheerleaders I am a much better quilter and crafter. Your imagination, creativity, and organization made it easy for us participants. (You are the ones who did the real work!) You have encouraged me to organize similar events within my local quilting community, and I have hosted a number of challenges for our guild and other groups. THANK YOU for being my role model!

    5) Because of the many blog hops, I have "met" a tremendous number of people and have made many friends. I have not actually seen most of them face to face, but I have met some of them. I hope it makes you feel good to know that you are responsible for many new friendships.

    6) And finally, you have helped me simply be a better person. There is no single thing you did, but it is the compilation of it all. You are an inspiration to many of us, even if we haven't told you so. THANK YOU!

    Congratulations on your new adventure and I continue to admire your work.

    Thanks for all YOU do! Live, laugh, and love. Life is good!

    Joanne

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    1. Joanne, sent this to me, and she touched on so many wonderful points, and because this was directed to many cheerleaders who helped so much behind the scenes...I thought it best to share it with them too....so thanks Joanne.... Funny had I heard any of these things through the years , it would of helped so much to ease the pain and sadness I felt most days.... but as I shared with Linda up above...at least I heard it before I was long gone wink....I am trying to be funny here....
      Lighten up , I am not DEAD yet, I have so much to do before I go......I plan on doing that tomorrow...
      so Joanne...better late than never....from my heart to yours ...SMACK...

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  40. First, let me thank you for everything you did to promote the hops and keep each one new and unforgettable. From my own experiences in similar projects I have some idea of how much effort, time and commitment went into each project (hops) but no clue as to the monetary or full emotional cost. It's hard to believe that it takes a bolt of lightning to strike before we come to the realization that continuing on the path we are on is not healthy. Sometimes I guess we need to learn a life lesson before we can move forward.

    I applaude your choice and know that not only will you be much happier but everyone's life you touch will be enhanced so much more than when you were stressed and unhappy. Even though I will miss your roll as organizer of those wonderfully creative blog hops I look forward to seeing your new direction.

    I am so happy that you choose to let such a huge burden has been lifted from you. I can only imagine the sense of relief you felt when you made the decision you did. I think it's wonderful! I'm not in the position to give you any advice but do know from experience that if you strive to please yourself and loved ones before anything else you will see that the rubbish will be left behind and the true treasures will emerge. Rina

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  41. Hello Rina....WOW!....I was rather POOR student you know....it took me almost 5 years to get the MEMO...but LORD knows, the most valuable lessons in life come in the forms of grains of sand, then pebbles, then rocks, then boulders and when you are face to face with a mountain and you realize you cannot move it...YOU have no energy to go around it... Hence my decision to step back a bit, gather some strength and stamp that MEMO, " I AM DONE HERE"... lol Ok, that was my picture in my head as I read your eloquent note lol I am happier, certainly less stressed...I wake up now each morning embracing my day instead of wishing ...well you don't want to know what I was wishing...lol

    So thank you for your applause, your real joy I feel in your note...I embrace that with all of my might...x

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  42. Being just an ordinary blogger I have made so many wonderful caring friends. Every one I have met in person is just as great as I had imagined. Since I lack the time and technical skills to hop around, my world is a whole lot smaller in some ways. Yes, there are jerks out there who try to mess you up with spam but they are likely to give up on me before long.
    Thanks for all the good inspiring activity you have promoted. I'm glad you are not completely turned off on sharing your passions.

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    1. HI sweet Julie....I am so pleased and happy to hear you have met many wonderful bloggers whom I am sure have become good friends to you....and yes I will not stop blogging or sharing my passions...I do have a few of them....and managing just a BLOG will seem like a holiday now....xx

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  43. thank you so much for all that you have done for the quilting bloggers community. You pushed me in a way that no one else has ever pushed. I have always been a creative person but I am not at all comfortable sharing my work. Through your hops I was able to come out of my shell a bit. I was able to join a few hops, not as many as I wanted to join. I always thought there would be more time "later" . Now there will be no "later" ... this does make me sad. But I am happy for you that you have found yourself and found a way to say "NO" to all that was weighing you down. I knew there was a lot of work involved but I never knew the physical and financial costs to you. I am truly grateful for that.
    I will pop in from time to time to see what you are up to. I wish you all good things Samm, Peace and Happiness to you always.

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    1. I know and I hear you , how many times many of us put off things we love or like to do only to regret it later...well no regrets, there is still time to ENJOY every MOMENT...Perhaps things like this happen sometime as a valuable lesson not to WASTE TIME.....I have wasted enough, taken enough abuse...I remember this person writing to everyone in a blog hop about me being late about leaving a comment. ( I was 3 hours late, that day I was picking up flowers for a very sick neighbor) ...To this day, I wonder if that person really lost their mind...I was never really the same after that....I NEVER EVER did not leave a comment for every one of thousands who participated in our hops all the while shining the light on others... Every thing I did was for YOU guys...I even got emails yesterday, saying I got so much from companies....Albeit I did but I have plenty of money to purchase anything I want, even their whole companies if I wished...who would do all this for this many years at such a cost... And really, every one of those companies benefitted from our efforts otherwise they would never kept giving to us...WE reach over 80,000 per day that is a huge fan base of people buying......So sadness dear lady, don't be sad, be glad you have something you got from all of this...and enjoy that sweet grand baby...those are things you can never get back....

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  44. I don't write much but I just want you to know how inspiring you were and still are to me. I appreciate all the fun hops you did and I am sorry you had to put up with unkind people and being taken advantage of is not fun. I do love to pop on by and read your blog because your words are uplifting and I love your projects and photos. I wish I could take photos like you :-)

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    1. Hi Kim, ahhh but I always remember your notes..here is a fact, I will have plenty of time to share some valuable skills, tidbits and share some passion and desires of mine that will not doubt continue to inspire you... already this enormous weight is off my shoulders...here is a tip on photos...always take close up shots...do portions of it..zoom in and always take photos early in the am before the sun is to high and before sunsets..you always have an open window of 1 hour for the best lighting.

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  45. Wow! Mdm Samm, this post is a revelation to me. I did not know how hard it was to run the blog hops. I sure knew there was a lot of time and energy as it was always one of the things I admired about you - especially as I was at a time in my life that lacked that and I always felt so encouraged by you. Your posts always put a smile on my face, and I was deeply encouraged by your genius, creativity, design ability, words of wisdom, caring attitude, super photos and awesome organisation skills. It makes me sad to think it was not always pleasant for you and how mean some people were - I never get that - when people share so much like you did. But I am happy you have made choices that put a smile back on your face and a hop, skip and jump out of bed in the morning - that is great!
    Arohanui and hugs
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    1. I know Karen....it is funny when you read about leaders of companies who step out of the limelight...people are shocked, they seemed so focused, organized, successful. People never leave anything if it fulfills them, they never leave over money, they leave because they don't feel appreciated... That is really what happened here, the more I did , the more UGLY I saw...when I would get people saying to me " they wanted everything I had" little did they know the price of it all. Little did they know how alone you are in managing it all. If it looked easy it was because I put 100% in everything I did, I never once did not follow through on what I said I was going to do...but the price and toll it took on me was greater than anyone could imagine......I still cannot believe I did it all for that long....but thank goodness this land angel brought me out of the darkness and despair and before I left completely, I still have something left to share....so I will continue in my creativity, I will still be focused and organized and I will still be thrilled when ladies like you appreciate the little things....and we can skip together...x

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    2. I thought of you today as we headed back from the beach - we followed a yellow mini some of the way, black trim and union jack painted on the roof - looked great - so how is Minmuf??????

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  46. People just don't shock me any more! Oh lord I must be getting old! You deserve to relax and just have fun doing what you want. I have been enjoying your crocheting adventures. And love the links your finding too!

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    1. well you must be the ONE...lol I am still shocked at how brave people seem to be behind a screen....but here we are, it is a new day, the past is the past, I have stitching planned to do instead of sorting through details for future hops...I was always 6 months ahead of it all... NOW I get to stitch and locate more LINKS for you ....that is a good thing!

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  47. Being a non blogger, I enjoyed visiting the many hops you organized. I can understand your dismay and disappointment with those who only wanted to get free stuff. I know you will be happier learning and doing the things you enjoy. Life is to short to waste on things that make others happy and us miserable. All the best in your new endeavors!

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    1. YOu too Judy have been at the other end of my tears..thank you for always being there...you were always my silent cheerleader, one I could always count on to lift me up, dust me off, and get me going on....It is nice not to have to worry about that anymore...right? lol..xx

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  48. I totally understand your decision, but wanted to chime in to say that I really enjoyed the blog hops and appreciate everything you did to organize and host them for us! I learned many new things and loved the opportunity to be creative. Best of luck in your new ventures, and thanks again!

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  49. FIRST, let me say that I am so glad that you are doing what is making YOU happy. I have that experience since I retired and it has given me a whole new mindset.

    Your post is eye opening and surprising. Those of us that enjoyed reading about and/or participating in the Hops probably had no idea what was going on behind the scenes. I certainly can't believe that anyone would complain to you about winners. I guess we should not be surprised that dishonest readers would try to profit from your hard work. It's just that kind of world.

    You keep doing what you love, and good luck with that crochet. Surely there must be someone, a reader perhaps, living near to you that would give one on one lessons as a friendly gesture. Have you ever contacted your local library to see if any groups meet there? We have several at different locations and everyone is just so willing to share their knowledge.
    Best Wishes
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    1. I have some classes scheduled...I will surely get this crochet thing....after all, I have time lol
      funny isn’t do we ever know what is behind the scenes...that is why it is called behind..it is hidden lol...thanks for always being a delightful cheerleader.

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  50. Good for you!! I am glad that you are into a new chapter, so to speak, in your life. Being in a happy & calm place is always a good thing. Two thumbs up & loads of well wishes in the new business & learning to crochet

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    1. Hi Rhonda...love the calm and the happy place...thanks for the 2 thumbs up..

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  51. Hi Mdm Samm I am sorry how many problems you had with the Blog Hops which brought joy to lots of quilters. I found your site quite late and the Blog Hops had been happening for a while but the ones I took part in I really, really enjoyed and have now made some wonderful friends through the power of the Blogging World, Quilting and the Hops. I am so glad you have found something which makes you happy without the hassle but thank you for all the time and effort you put in. Hugs, Susie x

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    1. HI Susie Q...it was always nice to see you ....I am pleased you found new friends too...many certainly did that....

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  52. Dear Mdm Samm, thanking you IN ADVANCE for your inspiration over the years. "In advance" because I just stumbled across your blog today for the first time. Can't wait to scroll back through your older posts to reap the creative inspiration there. Even though the last time I was thanked in writing for a quilt was 2012, I am shocked at the treatment you've received. Is it greed, a sense of entitlement, or what, that keeps people from expressing gratitude? Whatever it is, we are all the poorer for it--the recipient as well as the donor.
    "Keep only what gives you joy" is the advice in a book on decluttering that I am currently reading. You've made the right choice. Crochet is another good choice. "You CAN take it with you--it's so portable! I don't crochet, although if I ever found the pattern my mother used for slippers made from three squares set "on point", I would take it up! She also crocheted sweaters and ponchos from squares. Her daily bus ride in Houston allowed just enough time to make one square each way. After several months of this, a fellow passenger leaned over and asked, "Excuse me, but what are you doing?" He never saw the finished project, just one small black square that never got any bigger! 8-)

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    1. Are you not the sweetest...there is plenty to see here...gosh years of pretty amazing tributes, projects and certainly inspiration...and there will be more...that I can promise... I love your sweet story about your Mumm .x

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  53. All I have really is a simple "Thank You, Samm!" for all that you have done to brighten my quilty days. May yours be bright and happy and full of who and what you love. Enjoy every minute. {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} ... :) Pat

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    1. gosh I so remember you , it has been forever..hope this finds you well....thank you.

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  54. Congratulations on choosing to do what is right for 'YOU' and to enjoy your life Mdm Samm!!! I found your blog when I first started learning to quilt and learned so much from you and all the quilters that so graciously shared their talents with everyone. I appreciate all that I learned and felt that I received the biggest 'prize' of all from this amazing generosity!!! It has brought me so much joy in creating fun, and useful, gifts for others (and a few for me as well..lol). So sorry for all the negativity you endured, but glad to hear you're in a much happier place now. I've been a crafter since I was a small child and taught myself how to crochet when I was a teenager and still go back to it occasionally for fun….you will love it!! Have a beautiful day :o) ~Terry~ cwayons(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. thanks Terry...it has been a great start to a new beginning....I have a few plans...lol...

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  55. I am thoroughly aghast at what has happened to you. I have followed you and learned a lot along the way. I don't do too much on give a ways. Once in a while I will do one. I pray all will be well with you and you enjoy your new path. God bless you.

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    1. Well here is the good news...it is over, and perhaps I should have said something earlier, I just did not want to let most of you down...

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  56. Unfortunately there will always be idiots behind the screen spewing mean and ugly words, people who always expect to get everything for nothing, and rude people in general. They must live miserable lives to be so unkind. As the old saying goes ... what goes around comes around.

    I found your blog in October of 2014 and wish I would have found it earlier, but I had a blast seeing all of the blog hops and even participated in some of them. Oh what fun it was. YOU and everyone who participated in your hops gave so many of us inspiration for future projects. I learned a ton from some very talented ladies.

    Thank YOU for all you have done in the past for me and many ladies. Thank YOU for giving us your time to get everything in order for the blog hops to be a success. Thank YOU for being so kind, so generous and one of the sweetest ladies I know. Thank YOU for sharing and continuing to share your beautiful projects and talent with us. Of course, I can't forget your cheerleaders ... thank you also for your time getting all of the hoppers organized.

    I can hear your heart singing now that YOU created the time to do what YOU love to do, time to learn new things and, most of all, time to spend with those you love. Just stay away from the lawn mower. ;) Hugs and Peace

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    1. Oh sweet Jan, you never pull punches...Love that about you....and yes there are some pretty uglies out there...but here is something that is KNOWN...Happy people do not make others UNHAPPY....
      Glad you were part of it...isn't it nice to have had some special memories..and there will be more, I assure you...I have PLANS.... and they do no include any mowing wink...x

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  57. I thoroughly enjoyed following a few of the blog hops you organised. It introduced me to many lovely blogs and bloggers. I used to wonder at the amount of time and effort you put in and it is very disheartening to discover the true costs both financial and wellbeing. I hope your new venture is successful.

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    1. Hello Alcea....well it is starting off on a wonderful note..so thank you for dropping in...that was really nice..

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  58. Hello Mdm Samm. I was quite amazing to read your post. I didn't know all that happened. Thank you for everything you have done. I always enjoy your posts even thought I don't always leave a comment. Take care of yourself. Hugs, Christine xx

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    1. I hear from you plenty of times Christine...always welcomed....at times there were more ugly that happened then joyful moments....I did not even include the hundreds of sewing machines I also purchased for many...that was so disappointing too...I only ever heard from 3 out of 193....it certainly makes you take note....but listen things have been good these past couple of months....I am happy and am getting plenty of rest wink...

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  59. I don't participate in giveaways. I will pay for fabric, etc. and I shop on line a lot. I think anyone who tries to run a business of any kind, at any level is amazing. It IS HARD WORK> Thanks for your time and creativity.

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    1. I hear you I am the same way...if I want anything I can pay for it lol thanks for your note

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  60. I am happy for you and will miss the fun. You gave me so much self confidence to try anything. I never won a thing but I kept coming back, because it was challenging and fun! I ordered some Muffin mix we will see if I don't burn them. I will check in on you and if you ever need anything you know how to find me quite easily! As you have proved! Your in my thoughts and prayers.

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    1. HI Lisa....and you did win so much as we all did for those moments when we got to shine the light on you...and you were brilliant....and yes muffins, just read the recipe you will be fine....and congrats on taking a bite out of your cravings, they really work..

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  61. I too learned lots from the hops. I thank you for your time and everything I know you poured into them. I still pop by to see what you are up to. My recovery is slow, but you have been an awesome friend to me and I think of you often. I am happy to hear you are finding a happy path through life. It's too short for regrets. Enjoy.

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    1. Thinking of you too...to happier days... I am filled with JOY these days...it is a welcoming emotion that is for sure...x

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  62. Dear Mdm Samm, thanks for all the joy and inspiration you offered in your fabulously hosted and organised hops.
    May your hop-less life be blessed with overflowing joy and (stitching) fun!
    Cheers!

    Jeanneke.

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    1. HI sweet lady...yes my hop-less days are already a welcoming relief lol...
      and today it is so nice not to rush wink.x

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  63. Wishing you happiness.... Life has so many "bumps" in the road. I am so sad for the many 'thanks' that you did not receive for all that you are and do. You may never truly know the happiness that you bring with your talents and encouragement. Sometimes it is the in-spoken words that mean the most to ones heart.....just know please that there are hundreds of wonderful, caring people out here that have truly enjoyed and appreciated you at all 'costs'. Wishing you and yours all happiness. Sincerely........

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    1. Bumps, scrapes and tears....lol but again that is so behind me, and I am feeling so much better for it...I should have put an end to it after the 1st YEAR....Look at what I have to look forward to now...that is PRICELESS...so thank you for your sweet note...those words mean a lot..

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  64. Thank you for sharing your Heart with us here....know it was hard. You have been such an Encourager to us, and I for one have loooved the Hops....& always tried to say Thanks for the chances to win. Never realized the cost & stress you took on. Shame on folks that took advantage, etc. You did AWESOME job, and always been such a Lady! Many Blessings to you!!! (& Hugs!)

    Trying to convince my Husband to let me send for your Muffin Mix! Sound Perfect for he & I to get! Praying great success over your new Business!

    Ohio Hugs! :)

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    1. You all know I don't say too much about the UGLY of it all, in fact I can count twice in 5 years that I actually complained about anything....When you step back it is overwhelming what surfaces...PURE JOY....so thank you for your applause...it is felt in my heart...x and the muffin business, well it is rising every day...So many are really getting results and that makes me very HAPPY.

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  65. I'm really not surprised to read this. I knew something was up. When I was on wordpress.org, after each hop I I was getting over 300 hack attempts. This would go on for almost a month after. It was crazy. The ISP's were endless. I loved the hops but like I said once 'sure you can, it's your blog'. What makes this blog so wonderful is you....your beautiful self and your beautiful creative talent. Sure the hops challenged me but it was you that helped me see my potential. God has always put people in my path to be a blessing. You are definitely one of them. Just keep moving in the direction he directs you. You tell us we matter but matter so much too.

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    1. Ahhh Theresa...that is so nice to see, without airing out even more UGLY...you know I had to have a pretty big reason to stop it all....and by golly I did not make the decision easily nor did I make the decision to stop quickly...I even contemplating shutting down my blog forever and going away silently....but a few pretty amazing ladies talked me out of that...( they know where I live) lol So I will continue to inspire some...especially those who were more interested in me then a giveaway....Cori and I have a long list of things that will no doubt keep companies alive and certainly keep many inspired, I just know it will all work out...so thank you for your sweet note..it really touched my heart...x

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  66. oops--that was me. signed in under other account. ♥Duff

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  67. May I say, "Thank You Madamm Samm" for telling us your truth. From the very beginning of finding your blog I have felt both inspired and completely inadequate against all you accomplish. May your new path in your creative journey be beyond satisfying for YOU! I shall continue to admire YOU and all you share with us. I am sew very grateful. Creative Bliss is what I seek every day...

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    1. Hi Sherry, not sure why you would ever feel inadequate, no one is..As shared I was in a rat race and you kinda get caught up in things...you don't want to disappoint so you carry on ...silly me for not seeing what is was really doing to me... spiritually, emotionally and physically... it was really killing me on so many levels...If not for wonderful ladies like YOU , God knows what would have happened....So I have certainly a renewed strength, and for the first time in a very long time, I am at peace...so I hope I will continue to inspire in a non inadequate way wink..x

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  68. Dear Mdm Samm
    I'm so sorry to read about all the bad things that happend... :-(
    I had NO idea...
    I was so happy to be able to participate in a lot of your bloghops, and I learned a lot of new things. Things I would never have tried if it was'nt for you.
    So, thank you for beeing there for us for so many hops.
    I will keep following your blog, ( when I get more time during the autumn...) ;-)
    Take care and enjoy the good things in life.
    Hugs and regards from Ingrid

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    1. HI Sweet Inga....nobody really knew how bad it was...it just kept getting worse each year, but I had already invested so much, I just kept thinking it has got to be better...but the more I did , the more I gave, the more UGLY people became...GREED is a terrible thing really....it really hurt me to see so many get so demanding....eventually you just STOP....but things are so much better now....and I am so happy I could SPIT....lol...

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  69. I am not a "people person". Never have been. When I found your hops I was amazed by how outgoing and inspiring you were. I wondered many times if everything was as "sugar and spice" as it appeared. I hoped it was, but I think I knew in my heart there had to be a lot of grief. Sadly, I am not surprised to learn that you were treated so badly for sharing so freely of yourself. We have a saying down here; " No good deed ever goes unpunished." You were brutally punished for your good deeds. I am very sorry for that. I truly am. I am amazed by your strength and ability to keep going and sharing with us. I don't know that I would of been able to do that. I am happy that you are finding peace and contentment in your life now. That you can take joy in a clothesline full of hankies waving in the breeze. I hope you continue to find happiness in what you do. Thanks for not going away. You would of been missed.

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    1. I hear you Mary Ann I have become less of a people person through the years...A very big reason why I never want to meet anyone....it has never worked out for me....Once people know who I am they want even more....David said I am a magnet...everyone wants a part of me...I thought I could handle it from a blog but I was so wrong...I was a complete failure actually.... I should have known being NICE is just not enough, being generous and caring is just not enough, being the person I was, really was never enough for many.... So there you have it though.....I cried enough tears, I was so sick, I ended up with shingles....and that was terrible and still I managed the blog....when I think of what happened, it is enough to keep me away forever if not for a few of you who do make it worthwhile..the caring ones, the ones who just like me for me, my circle has gotten tighter and now for the first time ever, I feel safe and comforted ....and I am not going anywhere...wink...

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  70. Mdm Samm, thank you, thank you for all the hard work and wonderful organization you did with the blog hops. I had so much fun taking part in many of them and they really pushed me to do more with my quilting and tutorials! Good luck on the next part of your journey, I can't wait to see everything you create with crochet!

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    1. Dear lady , that is a lovely note, thank you ! So pleased to hear you got something from it all.

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  71. Love and thanks to you. Do what makes you happy. Keep inspiring people, as you do.

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    1. THANKS sweet lady...and I am ...and I am soo happy ...and inspiration...well I will do my best lol

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  72. What a sad story. Broke my heart to read that you received so much negativity. I am so thankful for the blog and all that you had overseen. I am looking forward to the new start. I have my crochet hook ready?😀😀

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    1. What would have been sad LIz is seeing I stopped blogging altogether so really this is not sad at all..I am still here...yes get that crochet ready, we are looking at some great projects..

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  73. Mdm Samm, Thank you for all of your hard work, personal sacrifice you have made. I have enjoyed all of your posts. I am sorry to hear that your email, mail etc was not always positive. I wish you the best!

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  74. I was so sad reading this blog. I was kind of late to the party of blog Hops because of my sewing inexperience. But I love what you did for us. I am also very mad about the people that abused you so. It don't know if it's always been like this or I have misplaced my rose colored glasses. Besides the cheating I noticed that people were not as committed in fulfilling their signup toward the end. You were so patient and I thought then how disappointed and disrespected you had to feel. I think I may have sent a note back telling you how sorry I was. If not I am saying it now. You gave us all a wonderful gift and I loved it. I love looking at all the beautiful creations you make. My Tammy bag is still my favorite thing inspired by you. Hugs to you from one of your biggest fans. Sandy Wootten

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    1. HI Sandy....it is the past now....thousands did get something out of it...and it is nice to know that some did appreciate the efforts of really so many....I was disappointed a lot...but I tried to pull myself up and made excuses for so many...what good it did I am not sure. But it takes all kinds in our world...My goal was really to gather NICE people, KIND people, and that I did do, clearly I am still here to welcome you .lol. ahhh My Tammy.....still sell plenty of them almost daily .....they get made almost every day it seems lol thanks for your touching note....x

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  75. My dear friend Mdm Samm,

    How to actually put into words all that you've brought to my life? It is impossible! It would take a novel. I'd hate to imagine where I'd be now if I had never come across your Wantabeaquilter hop. I too have learned so much from you and can never ever thank you enough. You even turned me onto the best jams around (which I'm out of and need to get more😉). Our phone conversations have always been a real joy and something that I wish we had more time for but as you know life with young kids keeps me super busy plus now being heavily involved with Girl Scouts takes a huge amount of my previous free time, but it is so worth it.

    You've mentioned some of the bad with me in the past and I've always been shocked at those that have abused all that you offered to the quilting community. Shame on them for ever making you upset and cry. Your out of pocket expense is huge but I know you wanted to do it for all of us. Bless you for all of yourself that you've shared with us over the years and are still sharing today.

    I am SO happy that you are now focusing on yourself and what makes you happy. That is as is should be. Enjoy every moment and I hope that in time the memories of those awful people will fade into the distance. I do read your every post and love seeing what you are creating though I'm often swiftly crushing through while I have a few kid free moments but please know that you are in my thoughts. The cross stitching and crochet are crafts that I've done since I was a preteen and I love seeing that you've recently discovered a love for them too. While I may not pick them up again anytime soon as I have too many quilts projects on my "must make" list, know that I'll continue to follow long your journey. Huge hugs from someone who is blessed to call you my friend.

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  76. HI MIchele, I could feel your heart in your note. thank you . It certainly has been an incredible journey. YOU know like something you so looked forward to, planned with joy only to find the destination a terrible disappointment. The saddest part for me anyway, is that trip in life was met with so many tears. the good news is I stopped before it destroyed any good that was still in my heart. I really feel so lucky to have met so many wonderful people, people like yourself who made it worthwhile to keep my blog open. I am in such a better place today, there is so much joy now, so much to plan and savour. I don’t think I will ever take that “trip again”......My heart is home now, a safe beautiful place where my skies are blue once again. Enjoy all the moments you have left, pay attention to details, do what you love , people will love what you do...that is what I take away now each day....thank you again.. x

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  77. I've been away for a while and am trying to catch up...I had no idea the blog hops cost you (and in ways more than financially) so much. For the few blog hops I was able to participate in, I'm thankful for the experience; for all the hops I followed, I'm thankful for meeting so many inspirational bloggers and for all the inspiration and caring you shared with us, I'm especially touched and thankful. THANK YOU!!

    I wish I were close to you so I could sit with you and teach you the crochet you want to learn. I've only picked up my crochet hook again a few months ago, but I'm finding it so so enjoyable.

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    1. Hi Pam...only a few knew....I just thought it would get better, and it didn’t but I did pray it would ....now, that is so behind us all and we can enjoy those moments that bring us pure joy...I am all for that now..thank you for your sweet note.. AS far as the crochet goes, I am doing ok...I certainly love the joy it is bringing me to learn something new....x

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  78. Sometimes you just need to step away and focus your energy in a different direction. All the best...xox

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  79. It is unfortunate when a beautiful flower finishes. Please think of the good things that grew out of the hops. Remember creating patterns and sharing your talent. Keep in mind the sewing machines you were able to provide for others. I remember you making the scissor fobs to sell to raise funds (I love mine). It's good you knew when to say enough. To me the times I shared with you and so many others will always remain precious. Thanks.
    Marcy@madebymeinred

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    1. ahhh that is such a nice way of putting it...and yes Marcy, all things come to an end...so we can try new stuff, inspire in diff’t ways.....now I have the time just for me lol

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  80. Sorry to see the blog hops end. I enjoyed hopping and seeing what everyone made. It was inspiring and always made me want to try harder to get better at quilting or whatever I was doing. I never imagined the cost financially. The number of hours I could certainly imagine as I have dealt with similar things.

    I am glad to know you are still blogging and that you have found new "passions". I know I can come to your blog and find inspiration. Thanks and God bless you.

    senstrings (at) yahoo (dot) com

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  81. God bless you Susan....and I am sure you will be able to find all kinds of inspiration out there....I always go to Pinterest when I am seeking that ....lol...

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  82. I am so sorry for what all your great inspirations to others has cost you. I have been away from reading blogs this past two years as my husband & I bought a house that we gutted and rebuilt ourselves so any free time I had (23 minutes) I chose to sew and not do blogs. I wish I could say something that would help you heal but only time will do that. I am glad you are now doing what makes you happy, life is too short to be around people who bring you down. Some people don't know a good thing when they have it but you are a good person for sharing all your enthusiasm with so many of us. Enjoy your new journey and stay happy. Will continue to follow you as you have helped make me the quilter I am today. I have been reading some of your back blogs and so glad that David is doing well. Hugs, Barb

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    1. HI Barb....nice to see you again, sounds like your life has had some adventures....and yes our lives are here to be enjoyed...we find those moments and then celebrate them...I celebrate your quilting growth too...yeahhhhh...

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  83. Well, I had wondered why...and you have 51,000 reasons why...goodness. You are doing so well, and I'm so happy for you!!! Enjoy what you are doing now, although I do miss the blog hops. ;)

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    1. and yes many reasons....and blog hops...well I am sure you will find some out there...just not something I will ever entertain again....wink..

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  84. I have not been on your site for quite awhile, so I have just read your post and understand your frustration. Please know how much you have inspired many quilters by challenging us to try new things, to go beyond our comfort zone, and to be better quilters. I found much inspiration from you and from others through the many blog hops I participated in. Some stretched me into new styles and types of quilting. I learned a lot and loved seeing what other people did with the same theme or pattern. Thank you for encouraging so many of us and making us better quilters. Good luck in your new endeavors!

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    1. your note will be cherished , thank you ..all the best to you today and all the tomorrows that follow

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  85. I had a feeling months ago that changes might be coming with Sew We Quilt....I have not been following any blogs closely and struggling to keep mine going. today O thought of you and decided to take a peek and see what is up. That being said...your blog was my very FIRST HOP and then I was hooked. I was always happy to be a part of your hops and always, found such inspiration, tried to encourage others and to thank you. It was a lot of fun...you rocked blogland for many many years! Thanking you one last time for all the effort and crap you had to put up with! Wishing you only the best for your current and future endeavors!

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    1. How perceptive you were...lol with all that occurred this year, there was no way I could have poured any more ME into anything , especially ....well it does not matter anymore does it lol
      Life has certainly been kinder, peaceful and much more loving...so it is good to move on...there is always something wonderful peeking over the horizon... even a few of you who pop in now and then....a nice surprise dear!

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  86. First off, Thank you so much for all you have done. You are a very talented person. I loved the blog hops so much. I truly miss them as do others. I was checking to see if there was a new Wicked blog hop this year. I am one of those people who learned so much from them. It was such an inspiration. I made folders on my computer and saved pictures from the hops so I could go back and try to use the ideas to create for myself. There were so many talented people sharing. Thank you all. Then I found the pinterest site with the pictures of the things made. Should have looked there earlier. I still go back and look at all the ideas the people had. Love them. I cross stitch also and can crochet some things. Love all things crafty. You are a special person to have done this. I am sorry for all the bad things that went with it. I know that doesn't take it away, but maybe it will help a little. I also collect free BOM patterns so "one day" I can work on them. Loved the Halloween with Monster High dolls you posted. I am using the idea to decorate this year. My point I guess is that I miss the insight and ideas of everyone. But I totally understand. Don't know you but feel like I do. Good luck and glad all is better for you.

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    1. thank you for your sweet note Ann, as you can only appreciate, there will be no more blog hops from me. With all the events that have unfolded this year, I cannot see where I would find the time or $$ necessary to manage it all. There are hundreds of blog hops going on, surely there will be some that will suit you to a t....all best in all the tomorrows yet to come..

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  87. Wow! Thanks for sharing that! How blind I have been! I didn't realize. I'm sure I entered some of your giveaways at some point. Not sure if I won - terrible that I wouldn't remember, and even worse if I didn't thank you! I have enjoyed your blog, that's for sure.
    AND, I am so so sorry for the loss of your dear dear Sumatra! How terribly sad, but bittersweet that you can now broaden your love to two new babies! How exciting for you! You mentioned what crocheters could give. What about us quilters??? Would love to know...

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    1. Hi Jodi, it has been quite a year....I really don't need a thing....just a smile a note...xx

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  88. I have just discovered your website and just love it. The tutorials are amazing. However, I could not discover how to activate the pdf. feature for the tutorials. Can you please tell me what I am missing? Thank you. Valerie

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    1. hi, not sure what you require....just copy from the attachment below each post

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  89. I never saw your blog before and missed all those hops, but so sad for you. Can't believe what a thankless society we live in. Any of us with computers can sure send thank you notes. They will brighten everyone's day.

    But it is sad that the work you did that not only were scammers doing their best but little thanks as well. I'm so sorry to hear it. Glad that you are finding things to do in your life to give you cheer. I remember the day I decided that my sister would never get any handmade item from me again as I could see she didn't appreciate them, so now I reserve my stuff for those that do. It doesn't pay for we quilters and crafters to let ourselves be walked on by unappreciative folks.

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    1. It certainly was an eye opener for me....I had never in my life experienced anything like this....I come from an academic world where honesty, respect, ethics were our core values...The internet certainly has changed all of that....people hide behind a screen, and at times it brings out the worst in people...I certainly saw the worst...Funny thing, when the bank closes, few make deposits...lol That actually brings a smile... I was not completely left empty handed...I have made some very lovely friendships..

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  90. I have only just discovered your blog and this was the first post I read. A couple of years ago a friend started a fb page called free to collector and she asked me to help admin. People would post items they no longer needed and others would ask if the could have them. At first we didn't have any rules but within weeks there were certain people who seemed to live on there and ask for everything. We saw items for sale on ebay and local selling pages so the person was banned and we added some rules. 1, once you have received 3 items you have to gift back to the page before you can ask for anything else. 2, Please use manners. 3, do not ask for delivery. 4, Do not private message the gifter, if you would like something ask on the page. We had all sorts of stuff being gifted, everything from a full bathroom suite to a cycle helmet. You wouldn't believe the amount of people who thought the rules didn't apply to them. It go so bad at one point that we were having to remove people on a daily basis. We were threatened, called vile names, someone hacked the page and we had to set up a new one and verbally abused. I had one woman tell me I had ruined her grandsons birthday because I told her she couldn't have a toy for free despite being asked to gift something back having had a wardrobe, bed and a set of drawers. I can't believe something that was set up to help people could turn into that but it did. In the end I had to remove myself from the page as it was affecting my health. I'm so sorry that there are such horrible greedy people out there and we have both encountered a few by the sounds of it.

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    1. it has been a year since I made this decision....WOW< a lot has happened....I read your note with compassion and a sense of deep respect. Sadly I know those with heart who give so much are those who become hardened to the facts of the world. There are some nasty and ugly people out there. It really brings out the true character of people. Did you know I still get nasty emails of "where are the blog hops? YOU OWE US more....some expletives when I don't share all my contacts, when I don't share the blog hop boards on pinterest....still it makes my tummy ill at the thought many feel "I RUINED everything for them" lol I had so many say they will never follow me again, they are not interested in what I do, they hate cats, they hate everything I make...YEP I still get SOME VERY DISTURBING EMAILS.....BUT ON on a good note, I sold my muffin company, at a profit, I have a wonderful partner whom I so enjoy every day with, I have so much to design, sew, reflect on all the goodness life still has to offer and the ONLY REGRET is I did not quit it years ago. I guess the lesson here is ...PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE< WE DO! Bless your heart for trying to add some goodness to our world...your note made me feel like I am not alone....xx

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  91. Dear Mdm Samm
    I was sorry to read this post. I had participated in one or two of your blog hops and enjoyed reading many more of them, in fact during hard times they gave me inspiration to get in and do things. For the past few years I have not been in a place to do much at all. Tonight I decided to visit some of my favourite websites of the past and I was saddened to discover that you had to endure such a terrible time in your attempts to provide inspiration to others. I would like to just say thank you for all that work you did and let you know you did make a difference in my life. Your fun blog hops were a lifeline to me as I coped with depression and discovering my husband had cancer and everything that he went through during his battle with that terrible disease. Thanks again for everything you did to inspire me to keep going through tough times. xoxo

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    1. it is always with a sadness in my heart to see these type of emails. It was just too much weight on my whole being to continue. I don't get easy disappointed as I had never encountered such abuse in my life till I became a quilter... to help with the frustrations, I had to end it...so I am so sorry I am disappointed you and many others...Every good thing must end especially when the pain is more than the joy...NOW today I am happier, and I have a delicious partner who makes this new venture so worthwhile..so pretty lady, I hope your days are brighter and shinier there are many blog hops out there...

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