We will be featuring Tamara twice, as I ( Mdm Samm) did my review on this book....I loved her story....She is witty, bright and shared some upbeat moments...
31
Dates in 31 Days
(excerpt
from pg. 147)
My reactions to men were
out of balance. Either I would feel like I had full control of my dating life
by rejecting or accepting a man, or I would feel powerless, as if I were lucky
to have some poor sap show me any attention.
However, I’m beginning
to form a better attitude about dating, which means finding that middle ground
between having control and letting go. While it’s good for me to have a general
idea of what I want in a partner, there’s much to be said for
being open to other options. I need to
assess guys who come my way based on who they are—not on my expectations—and accept
that the next guy won’t be my last chance. That attitude will make it easier
for me to choose whether I want to invest
my time.
I wasn’t quite sure how
seriously guys would take my project before it began. I wasn’t sure if anyone
would find it worth his time or effort. And granted, lots of guys have turned me
down, saying first dates are difficult enough. Why would they want to put themselves
out there for every other girl to judge them?
But then there are the
guys who not only seem really interested in being part of the project, but also
want to plan our date, pay for it, and do their best to impress me. I’ve been
humbled and surprised by how kind all of the guys have been so far. Is this how
men really function? Could guys really be more selfless and emotional than I’ve
been giving them credit for my whole life? They don’t really go out of their
way for women like this. Do they?
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Interesting. So she actually told these guys she was going to write about them. Hmmmm. I would think that would scare them off.
ReplyDeleteI am a disaster dater. My solution, for many, many, many years has been to NOT date. I am just recently sticking my toe back into the water and struggling with the conflict between that high list of expectations and my fantasy of happily ever after. The result, for me and many women, is that we push away men who might be good for us and fall for men who are the figment of our own imaginations. I'll definitely look into this book, it might contain just the insights I need.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was in my teens I did not get asked out much but the few dates I went on, I had a really good time with really nice guys.
ReplyDeleteWhen I went through my divorce, I really dreaded the prospect of dating. I just wanted them all to stay away and leave me alone..
and then my (now) hubby came along and swept me off my feet... dang!! :)
I have a son who needs to find a girl like this! How refreshing that this is not a "man bashing" type of book. Tamara sounds like a girl who is wise beyond her years!
ReplyDeleteWow! Hurrah for Tamara and the men who participated in this project.
ReplyDeleteThis book sounds like an interesting read. The excerpt made me want to know more. A good book to pass along to my daughters. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like an interesting book for someone young and unattached. I think we often do set our expectations then look for someone to fill them.
ReplyDeleteSounds like an interesting read even if I am not dating, I have been married 35 years. Thanks for the giveaway.
ReplyDeleteRosemary B here:
ReplyDeleteSweet. Every one is different how they go about this "ritual"
Both of my daughter's were quite dissimilar in their interests and approach with dating.
fascinating topic. I cannot imagine what specific guys would go for an experiment like this...
Everyone needs different information.
I dated a LOT of men all the way through high school and college. I made no commitments. For me it was just about learning who guys were and who I was and wanted to be.... but that is my long story. I had two older sisters that were horrible roll models for me - in every way you can imagine.
Tamara is an interesting girl. She must be very sure about herself. Wow, I do not miss those days.
My dating days are long past, but this would be a good read for my 2 daughters. Thank you-
ReplyDeleteRosemary B here againnnn:
ReplyDeleteOh and thanks so much for the give away opportunities to win great stuff we all love :-)
Looks like a positive book on dating and not a "man bashing" book like Linda said. This would make a great book to give to my single friends and family.
ReplyDeleteI have been.married all my life to someone and I believe this book is work checking out.
ReplyDeleteHaving been married for over 40 yrs, I don't have any reference point on this subject. That saying, I'm sure that my 2 grandaughters who are in their 20's would find this book very interesting.
ReplyDeleteInteresting point about our expectations getting in the way of how a person actually is. More books by women for women.
ReplyDeleteMaybe we should expect more from ourselves first and that may allow us to respect others more readily for who they are.
ReplyDeleteSounds like an interesting read and not just for the dating crowd :)
Sounds like a book with a interesting story behind it. I think it takes a lot to do a book like this from both the author and the guys. Should be a enlighting read for any of us. Thanks once again for introducing sew many different books to us Mdm Samm.
ReplyDeleteHope you have a wonderful weekend.
in stitches
I would like to do this but my husband has a rule if I date, they pay for the fabric.. lol.. the author is adorable and I wish her success...
ReplyDeleteThat was just a teaser!!! Guess I will have to win the book or buy it. Vivian
ReplyDeleteAs I'm not in the dating pool, thank you, thank you, lol. I'm sure there are many who would love this book.
ReplyDeleteSounds like something I should try!
ReplyDeleteSounds like a fun book!
ReplyDeleteThis could be interesting and fun to read.I cannot see a man being truthful if they knew they were going to be wrote about.
ReplyDeleteI'd love to win this book for my daughter!
ReplyDeleteI'd love to win this book for my daughter!
ReplyDeleteSounds enlightening. It would be interesting to read since I haven't dated in forever(happily married). It would be interesting to read since my kids as well as nieces and nephews are at that stage in life.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing.
Dating with a purpose, I find that I can relate to that. Being older then dirt, my expectations would be different then Tamara, but maybe then not! Great excerpt, Mdm. Samm.
ReplyDeletejbechosend at sbcglobal dot net
No dating for me anymore but looks like a great read!
ReplyDeleteeven dating only one guy, I can see how this book would be interesting.
ReplyDeletewho says you can't date your spouse? we all need ideas to get out of the rut and routine hum-drum. I got hooked on the dating divas website and it's certainly changed my perspective on my spouse and marriage!
ReplyDeleteFawn
I hope this book will be helpful to the dating people. I think it is so hard to meet people anymore.
ReplyDeleteDating is a very faded memory for me, but this book looks like it gives dating a new perspective.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like an entertaining read, for certain! Perhaps a bit of an eye-opener, too?! :)
ReplyDeleteAgain an interesting topic to share even for me as a mature woman. I have been dating some times lately, and there could be a bunch of stories to tell you, believe me. LOL
ReplyDeleteI'm getting up there in age, but maybe I'd go on a date! :). I admire these younger women who are authors of books about women and I like to support your reviews and interviews. (p.s. Since I've already won a book here, from Mdm Samm, pls. don't choose me to win the book of the day).
ReplyDeleteMust have been interesting doing all that research! I'm sure the author learned a lot about herself too. Would be an interesting read.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely would be for dating my spouse. I also just signed up to follow! Thanks!
ReplyDeleteIt looks like a good read to me! Thanks for introducing me to all the new authors.
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is that I am so glad that I'm not single.
ReplyDeleteI think this book would be facinating. Another one to add to my ever growing list.
ReplyDeleteMadame Samm, I've been keeping my word ... reading a book for at least one hour a day.
If you continue to offer such good books, I'm going to have to start reading 24 hours a day. ; )
I think reading this will help me raise my son to be a good potential date in a few years! What a fun idea this book is.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a very interesting and helpful book. So many good books to read. So many great giveaways!
ReplyDeleteI am glad those days are behind me!
ReplyDeleteI hope someone who is new to dating need this book :D
ReplyDeleteThanks for the review.
I have seen my daughter set her expectations and then run when they don't measure up. Which is fine in a way, but perhaps not the healthiest? It would be interesting to read more. :)
ReplyDeleteDating...that was always hard for me. In fact, until I met my husband, I usually didn't like dating. He was the first date that I was with that I was comfortable in just 'being' and being at peace with quiet.
ReplyDeleteI grew up with a brother and always knew men could be selfless and immotional; lucky me.
I stopped dating or even making myself available. Perhaps this book would help me. Of course, the author is very pretty and youthful.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great idea! I like your style ... 31 dates, 31 days.
ReplyDeleteI was a gutsy teenager asking the most popular guy to the prom. He backed out because he had a broken leg. I thought he was lying but he showed up at school with a cast and crutches.
I believed he was a good soul and he really was. This is key for me... my expectations. I see what I look for.
Peace, love hugs and hot cocoa,
Christina in Cleveland
This looks like an interesting read. People need to realize that dating can be for fun not to just find a husband or wife!
ReplyDeleteBeing open is the hard part but can bring the reward of finding someone that cares about you. You need to put away the requirements checklist and enjoy.
ReplyDeleteExperiencing dating through Tamara's book would probably be a real eye opener and a good book to read for all women looking for Mr. Right!! I can count on one hand how many guys I dated...did I miss out?? I don't think so...I met Mr Right when I was only 15 and he was 17...way back in the 60's. Today's dating scene would be so different.
ReplyDeleteCongrats to Pat and Mary!!
Looks like fun! I am glad to be out of the dating scene for some 20 years now, but I like to experience it vicariously!
ReplyDeleteTell us more...sounds very interesting. Congrats to the prize winners!
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